He wont eat and acts weird. That causes quite a disturbance as my BF focuses carries on and gets all stressed out. What we view there is mostly Just fantasy. How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? I dont want to ruin our relationship over this. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. I have a chihuahua and he is wonderful. I know I must sound like a nag sometimes but communication is key. He obviously has no respect for me. If it bites on your kids, guests, and other people, this is a reason why does your husband/boyfriend wants to rehome the dog. I wanted to develop a close, strong emotional bond with her but I believe her dogs were a distraction to her and hindered the growth of our relationship. I really need my husband to get on board with the dog. I refuse to leave with a dog that stinks like s***. Its very unsettling to have someone that puts a pet above you and doesnt know what boundaries are. You seriously CALL YOUR DOG TO BED?? If you managed to do these things 100% perfectly, your husband/boyfriend wont attempt to rehome the dog. My boyfriend has a pit bull she is a nice dog. Because that shows me how much more the cat means to him than I do. Visit a shelter "just for fun.". Wow! Consult a veterinarian: Sometimes, this issue may occur due to both physical and phycological issues. In your case he made it so clear that his dog is number one in his life and if you were ever to get married to him you will forever take a back seat to that animal and its master. For more information, please see our I cant afford fancy training and I just dont know what to do. Im not sure what to do at this point, most angry pet owners will just say to leAve or end it. But, it is still his dog and he is the one that gets to make that final decision, not you. We have 3 dogs, the youngest being his. We cant agree on where the dog can sleep, how much the dog can stay inside or even how much food to give the dog. I am engaged and although I have known my fianc has never cared for inside dogs, he has always tolerated them even at their most annoying times. He used to get mad at me when I was frustrated with him too, but since that didnt do anything I started getting angry with the dog. This is so frustrating. He got a Yorkie I didnt want. From here, I knew that my husband should be the one to choose her, because I love all Boxers. She also sniffs constantly. I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. There are plenty of pet owners that have beautifully trained dogs. LOL These people and their dogs will leave you for their pets because their pets love them. ), Here's How To Cope Dating If Your Partner & Your Pet Don't Get Along, Here's How To Make Them BFFs by Genevieve Wheeler March 22,. For starters we agreed no dogs on the couch as it is my couch from the start, we also agreed that she will sleep in a kennel. Janet, Ive put tarp down in the room as he previously went poop on the floor there. Thats unsanitary! Melissa, I really feel your pain. JRs can maul people and seems to me many in cities have owners who think this is cute. Fortunately I dont have that issue. I dont want this puppy to be a toy and go from home to home but no one seems my point. I read some of these comments and I must admit some of them are just unrealistic. I absolutely do. The dog barks heavily so much Day and night without change. Also, be basks in his dogs love, and great qualities cant understand why we cant learn from them. Did I mention that I have to carry him down the stairs & soon will need to carry up the stairs. She is wrong to suggest someone who isnt capable of living on his own have a pet to help him. My boyfriend loves his little chihuahua more than me. The guy I am with hates dogs with a bloody passion and I have THREE. So, now in my third year of marriage I am reading and learning, more and more about this phenomenon because I love my wife but not her attachment to her dogs. Even more frustrating, this 15 year old pitbull acts no older than 4 or 5 years of age. When we are having a date night, he is on the floor with the dog, at night I wake up to him not in bed and Ill go looking for him and he is out in the living room crouched on the floor laying with the dog. In approximately three weeks I am leaving my four plus year toxic marriage. Pancho wont eat his own food, but growls and is very aggressive and it causes a big stink. He asked me to just become okay with fur. Like I said, they are dog owners but they are sensible ones that never take their dog to a restaurant or shopping etc. Now with my partner its so different. She should get the hint very quickly. Yet I still try and compromise because I love her genuinely. Did you to ever think that your partners ha no idea how inappropriate you were being as dog owners before they actually moved in and lived it everyday? So anyways, we go to the shelter, just TO LOOK. He was supportive of getting the dog although I knew he wasnt a massive animal person. Sure they make great companions, but they also require boundaries in the home and animals will always be just that, regardless to how some people try to anthropomorphisize them. If you cant fix that, then yes, you should break up. He says Beau always has to be outside. All I can say is, poor dogs, My boyfriend of over a year hates my Pomeranian. The fact is, this is really obvious regarding why does your husband/boyfriend wanna do this. Dogs are happiest in a structured environment where they know who the leader is and arent in a constant state of unrest due to rank confusion. by the second day she barely barked. The one you presented is simply the most popular. I have tried so hard to acclimate to her, but I feel deep resentment that is only getting worse. I clean them up, he doesnt have to even be bothered with it. After all she is one. I feel so sorry for her partner. It wasnt until another dog came into the picture (my girlfriends roommate at the time) and all things started going south. The article is right, you DONT HAVE TO LOVE THE PET AS MUCH AS YOUR PARTNER. He is sweet and sheds much less and does not stink!!! One of each. As for the dog thing and spreading bacteria, the only dog (or cat) disease that Ive ever heard of thats communicable to humans is Rabies. Thats disgusting. I want to find the dog a new home while my boyfriend is in love with the dog and wants to keep her even though hes at work all day and only sees her at night for a couple hours. I remember one time telling the dog to get off the couch to go get a treat from him in the kitchen, and his reply was She doesnt have to shes the queen! Right now the only rules I want is for them to stay off the furniture and not pee on the floor. I believe shes jealous but he doesnt seem to see it. If I sneak table scraps to the dog, he gets furious because Fido cant have wheat products! I mean, COME ON ITS A DOG! It is all something he is obligated to do, it doesnt come from the heart or a place of concern because if it did we wouldnt be having these arguments and if he just did what he is supposed to do in terms of training, we definitely wouldnt have these arguments. The problem is he got a hunter way and I KNOW its not the dog but I look at the dog and I cant get past the colouring, its too similar! Some of our friends and family members are not dog people, and well be damned if we alienate those people over a dog. That way you can still have somewhat of a relationship with him. I will say he is really good at caring for her and feeding her.. but also thinks she is toy take out when he see fit and then when she ask up doesnt know when to play and not knowing the difference and then gets yelled at.. out of control I can handle most.. saddens me.. .. She does not listen very much at all. He had me promise that I would train a new one as well as I did my last. My fianc s daughter (8) hates dogs and my fianc is not a pet person. I did agree to having the dog with us because I dont like to see any animal suffer as I am too a dog lover. Eventually I get the, OK, lets talk about something else now, or, this is upsetting me; I really dont wanna talk about this. So once that happens there isnt much I can say or do. I now have one foot out the door unless he is willing to accept my compromise or come up with some equally durable plan. Your health is number 1! She sadly ended up passing and left behind a small dog. Hes well trained but has been acting out whenever my husband is involved. Definitely do not get rid of the dog and keep the bf. Because those relationships arent real relationships. It is unfair to make demands like this of someone else. Not to my boyfriend. If the dog lays on the bed, remove the separation anxiety and start taking the steps to end the problem for the sake of your relationship. But it's amazing how often we jump through psychological hoops of self-justification to convince ourselves that things are really working. My mother in law had 2 dogs & before she died asked my husband to take care of the dogs. Now he says that I am mean and there is no reason she cant sleep in our bed. The problem is that we live on the noisiest corner of our city because of the traffic and it can get a little stressful. Dogs behave the way we TRAIN them to behave. If you really want a dog, talk to him about finding some sort of compromise. Which I usually dont. They are very, very good dogs. I can understand that, but Im having a hard time accepting it. See, I like that,my wife thinks that dog is a human child and thats one of our problems. After that year, my fiance decides without my consultation to adopt a rescue dog. He will break out of whatever you try and put him in then raise hell on the whole house. At first, I liked her. The dog ate some wet cat food and had an allergic reaction, so she had to be on steroids. Then my partner came into my life. His pee smells horrible and I recently learned that the smell of wolf urine is so strong that people buy it off the internet to ward off raccoons and possums. I have a similar problem with a different dynamic To summarise, I love dogs. I see a dark figure standing there and so does my dog. I dont think you are wrong for feeling the way you do (we should never apologize for FEELING a certain way), but I think communicating to him how it is making you feel might help. I left and havent regretted it. Hi, I really need help, My boyfriend and I got a puppy a couple of months ago. I am not an animal person. Thats when my hell began. Go on the couch, eat his food, go in our bedroom and climb on our bed. Gah, I cant wait till she dies. Its sucks to be 2nd fiddle to a pet. I dont even know where to start. The pigs are in the living room as there is nowhere else and I clean the cages daily. Not disciplining an animal does not mean love. I dont know. Spoiled animal who is neither trained nor socialized. His wife was disgusted because she said that the dog should have stayed on the ground while they ate and now the next person that comes in will be sitting and eating where a dog was? Humans, on the other hand, develop and sustain relationships with other people based upon a plethora of things in life. Hes out of town for work a lot and I get stuck caring for the little jerk. We have been going rounds about the animal for quite some time. Thankfully, the trainer was able to work with them to correct that behavior. I uprooted to move all the way to a small middle eastern country leaving all that i cherished ( career,family,friends) behind and was shocked to find my husbands cat coming along. My bf humanizes his goldendoodle and does not set any boundaries for him. 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